So, if you’ve gotten past the very title of this post, you’re probably thinking, “What? What terms and conditions?” You might have even pondered the relevance of those two in relation to friendship.
My point precisely, my friend.
Who came up with the idea anyway that friendship has terms and conditions, or any relationship for that matter? True friendship shouldn’t have any. Sure, there are absolutely going to be defining moments where the strength and durability of the relationship will be tested. But there will also be pleasant times, happy moments, as well as sad experiences.
Isn’t that the meaning or purpose of a relationship to begin with?
God’s word puts it like this: “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…” (Ecc 3:1)
Yes, even the most tried-and-true friendships may come to a few knock-down, drag-outs every now and again. However, I believe it is through those experiences where we learn who we are or are not, and how much or how little we are willing to do (or sacrifice) for the sake of that relationship.
If the idea that having or being a true friend means more to you than simply recapping the day’s events over biscotti or exchanging pleasant words in passing every now and again–if it means to you being there no matter what, good times, great times, or even horrible ones–congratulations! You’re in the FRIEND business. And even if it doesn’t, you can still be a friend (and swap a few awesome oatmeal cookie recipes in the process), but leave the “terms and conditions” clause for business relationships, not personal ones.
Tomorrow’s challenge: Make a conscious effort to be a friend to someone. Or, make a brand new one! Offer to be there–anywhere (or nowhere)–for that person. Just be. And if you happen to stumble upon that truly awesome oatmeal cookie recipe, shoot me an email. 🙂
Be blessed, friends…